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HELP! I'm Living with a ~~Man~~ Boy

Betty McLellan

AN INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER

Now published in Thirteen languages
Simple Chinese, English, Estonian, German, Greek, Italian, Japanese, Korean, Latvian, Spanish, Russion, Slovenian and Turkish

“Boys will be boys – and that, at least in the eyes of women, is the real trouble. … With a mixture of sensitivity and humour McLellan puts forward some thoughtful strategies to help men understand the difference between mumbled promises of future help and solid action”
– Peter Laud, Sunday Times

“provocative.... gives positive advice, too.“
– Readings Summer Reading Guide, p. 16.

“serious but with a light and humorous touch“
– Reader’s Feast, Summer reading supplement featuring independent Australian publishing

Betty McLellan is the author of two other books, Beyond Psychoppression and Overcoming Anxiety.

Are you tired of finding towels on the bathroom floor?
Have you ever walked through a supermarket with a thirty-five-year-old child who wants only the most expensive things on the shelves?
How do you go about making men understand the difference between helping out with the housework and doing it?
And what about violence?

Help! I’m Living with a ~~Man~~ Boy has forty-one practical scenarios that many women will identify with immediately plus suggestions for dealing with these situations. This book is about relationships. Its overall aim is to encourage women and men to look more honestly at the way they relate to each other, and to strive for a personal maturity that will allow each of them to enter into the give and take that constitutes relationships based on genuine love, respect and equality. The focus is on men’s emotional maturity and the harmful and destructive behaviour which usually accompanies such immaturity. Betty McLellan is careful to point out, that this does not describe all men. Some men have achieved maturity and are contributing in a mature way to their relationships. Others, she admits have a long way to go.

Author Note
A psychotherapist with over 20 years experience, McLellan discusses the need for honesty in relationships. Throughout the book, the author speaks directly to women about the devastating effects on them

Contents
Everyday Situations
1. When you want some answers

Men are such boys
2. When the man in your life is a child
3. When you feel like his mother

Boys will be boys
4. Trying to improve communication when you are the only one trying
5. Longing for meaningful, stimulating conversation
6. When you never know what your partner thinks or feels
7. When you are the butt of his "jokes"
8. When you are made to feel invisible
9. When you are always the one who is wrong
10. When you sense you are being lied to
11. Always waiting for the "right" moment to talk to him
12. When you are constantly told you are mad (and half believe it)
13. When you feel you have to keep you anger to yourself

Boy-power
14. Living with a bully
15. When you are the victim of physical abuse
16. When you see your partner's behaviour emerging in your son
17. When you are the victim of sexual abuse
18. When you have sex to keep the peace
19. Being abandoned after sex
20. When you are a victim of sexual harassment in your own home
21. When you discover your partner has sexually abused your child
22. When no one believes you
23. Discovering your partner's stash of pornography
24. When he refuses to discuss it

Can't live with him, can't live without him
25. When you suspect your partner is having an affair
26. When you discover your partner is having an affair
27. Realising you have been surrounded by lies and deceit for a long time
28. When you lie awake at night going over and over conversations in your mind
29. When you are overcome with anxiety/panic
30. When you live every day with a gnawing feeling deep in the pit of your stomach
31. Knowing you can neither live with him nor live without him

Living with Mr Nice Guy
32. When friends and family tell you how lucky you are
33. When you are told that his behaviour is your responsibility
34. Living with a man who puts on a good show for for others

Woman-Self: becoming strong, growing stronger
35. When your problems seem to go on and on
36. When you feel burderned with guilt
37. When you struggle to forgive
38. When your self-esteem needs a boost
39. When you are terrified of being alone
40. Finding the courage to live assertively
41. Becoming stronger, growing stronger

Afterword


Germany: Orlanda	Japan: Kosaido Shupan Ltd	Spanish Language: Longseller S.A	Italy: Baldini & Castoldi

Estonia: Tanapaev Publishing house	Latvia: Avots Publishing	Turkey: Okuyanus Yayin	Greece: Fytrakis

Russia ASTREL-SPB Publishers	China: CITIC Publishing House	Korea: Dulnyouk Publishing	Slovenia: DZS General Publishing
ISBN 1875559795 160pp 128x198mm pb Territories:World All rights:Spinifex Press

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